Nice Never Wins

So the other day I had an online argument with a male who is anything but adult. Now I already knew of his childishness just through our personal history. He would always send me harsh text messages or call me spazzing out early in the morning. It was always the same complaint, “How are you supposed to be into me or talkin to me but you never text or call me?” He would always follow that up with something about me having a child or in that childish nature. Now me being me, I just let him blow off his steam because I already knew the nature of his being. Never once did I ever say anything to him that was out of line, disrespectful or discouraging. But I also NEVER gave any inclination that I wanted more than what there was or that I thought he did. At this point in my life I dont have time for anyone elses internal setbacks that cause them to have disfunctional relationships with others; whether based on intimacy or pure kindness.

He had just came out of a relationship that ended badly. She cheated or was talking to someone else. None can say what really occured because we weren’t there. Now this was his first love so of course having gone to hell in back in a relationship of my own, I already knew the pain flowing through his veins. Well since I never considered him anything sentimental in my life I didnt expect him to view me as the same in his. But according to him he saw me as “the clingy type and didnt need that in his life” at the time. Which is probably the reason why we stopped talking completely. He had some type of attitude with me & appeared in a dream one night so I had to make sure everything was kosher between the two of us. Of course, that’s when he felt the need to act a true ass.

He starts going on about my daughter’s father playing me & me being too nice. Told him from jump that he only knows what I told him about my daughter’s father & I and I didnt tell him everything. So he has no room to speak on our personal relationship. As far as me being too nice I was too confused with that. He began to tell me that no one wants a nice person all the time, it’s no fun. This just proved his true immaturity. Only children or those of an adolescent mind enjoy arguing for no apparent reason or for reasons that cant be justified. As an adult you accept the fact that disagreements may occur but you learn to work through them. You dont wish for animosity.

He also says that being the nice guy will only leave me alone with a child and no one else will ever want someone they can get anything out of. I found that so sad because I dont see anything wrong with being nice. But I am no push over at the same time. I have a very wise mind and know how to read people. [The same way I read him] I do live a life on the principles of treating others how they want to be treated. You reap what you sow and thats why I try to keep a positive attitude and treat people respectfully or tolerate them in a respectful manner. Of course the nicer I was to him the more irritated and ignorant he became.

This entire situation just had me wondering what the human stance is on “being thy brothers keeper”. Is it really that hard for people to maintain an amicable relationship? No matter if it is between two males, two females, a man and a woman, no matter if there is a romantic relationship or not. It seems to me that it is hard for this era to just be nice to one another. To really step outside themselves and picture themselves in that person’s shoes. Or to just simply imagine being treated that way yourself. You would not want a loved one being treated that way.

We must also take note of our maturity levels. To intentionally try to bring someone down and destroy their character or peace of mind is simply cruel. Judge your situation and think before you speak. By doing so you get the chance to weigh all your actions and their consequences. So yes the nice guy may always finish last but he also always comes out on top. So to live a life of righteousness & making the right choices will surely bring great rewards in the end.